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"Any idea when you're speaking to the Haim sisters?" a text pops up. "I was hoping to ask if I can be their extra sister."

However, there remains a single issue: The sender also desires to be the Haims' fourth member. Furthermore, we are far from alone. Several famous admirers have openly begged for the honor.

The evidence suggests an irresistible appeal is happening. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their musical journey playing gigs at local delicatessens with their parents. Now they're multiple Grammy nominees.

Similar to the greatest groups, they're a tight-knit unit. Their music videos often depict them walking in harmony down the streets of Los Angeles. During performances, they perform with such unfettered joy you find yourself thinking, "I'd love to be part of that, too."

"The numerous instances on tour that fans told us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I picked up a drum kit'," states Alana, the youngest of the trio. "That's the biggest honor. It is a prize in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can inspire others to start a band."

"And thus all is invited to be the next part of the family."

Grammy Nod

The trio have called into their homes, where they're taking a pause after an extensive tour in for their latest album, I Quit.

They're presently reeling from the news it's been shortlisted for Best Rock Album at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the first all-woman band ever in contention for the award.

"I tune into the lists every year, so it sort of feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is called," notes Alana. "I had to call my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this right or am I imagining things'?"

The importance of the nomination resonates with the sisters.

"We really set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a significant achievement," says Alana. "Yet we're just appreciative for the pioneers that inspired us."

Heartbreak and Candor

The project was born from a time of emotional upheaval. All three sisters found themselves single, and the music explores that unique in-between place where you're glad to be free, but not yet ready to start anew.

The words detail departures and partings. The sisters seek love, but not the kind of love they've experienced. You can hear them figuring out in real time who they want to be.

"I adore summary, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is essentially a slogan. You have to actively work on shutting out the criticism and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Refinement of Sound

That developed resilience called for a new sound – more organic and immediate than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that began with the percussion.

"Percussion is such a nuanced thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she states.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our biography," quips Alana. "I always say, our albums won't commence until we find the ideal drum sound."

Experiences and Shared Humor

The band's openness inspired the album's marketing, where the sisters revealed some of their romantic horror stories.

One man left Este over a medical concern. Alana shared a story of travelling to celebrate New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a friendly slap at midnight.

"Experiencing these breakups, you just feel like there's only darkness," notes Alana. "So to be able to find humor in those stories and have them tell you even crazier stories, it's therapeutic."

A Confident Future

One can easily sense a evolution in the band. These days, Haim are more assured of their place in the rock pantheon.

They're top-billed acts, with successful albums and an global audience.

Yet Haim will forever be their top focus.

"Me and my siblings have been making music since I was four," concludes Alana. "It feels as if no other path that we were meant to do. And I'm really thankful we've reached this point and we're still kicking."